Six ways to love yourself and no longer let stress takeover!

We all have that problem that will never go away, that dress that will never fit, that pile of work in the corner that only seems to grow. Sometimes we let the smallest worries take over our lives and forget about loving ourselves. Remember to love yourself is one of the manifestations of God’s love in life. Salaam Style share six steps on how to convert stress into love.


 1. Goodbye

It’s always good to start to say goodbye to unaccomplished wishes, and unattained expectations from the past that have only caused you grief. It’s time to let go you deserve a fresh start.

Remember the old saying, “what is destined to reach you will reach you even if it is underneath the mountains, and what is not destined to reach you will not reach you even if it is already between your two lips.”

2. Positive Thinking

It may not sound like much, but it is helpful. This may be hard in the beginning, especially if you are a cynical person, but give it a try for a few days. Positive thinking will enable you with happiness and serenity from within. You may find that simple mundane things that caused stress before no longer adversely affect you.

3. Don’t under value and compare yourself to others

“He who undervalues himself is justly undervalued by others” – William Hazlitt. Put yourself first and stop comparing your life to others, it breeds you little but harsh judgments, frustrations, and despair. Accept the fact that everybody is destined to be different. Being grateful for everything you have will set your heart at peace. Nobody can do a better job of being you — except you!

Remember “Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.” (65: 3)

4. Distribute kindness from within

“So whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it” (99: 7).

Spread joy and happiness to others. There are lots of simple ways to do this. Give someone a smile. Donate to charity. Volunteer to be a teacher for unfortunate kids. Help an elderly person to cross the street. All in all, make it a habit to do good things, even when people do not see it. Live in a way such that when your children think of love, fairness, caring and integrity, they will think of you.

5. Focus on your achievements

People are often more likely to focus on their failures than their achievements (probably as some sort of self-protection in order to avoid future failures). It’s okay to acknowledge the things that didn’t go swimmingly, but if you really want to love yourself, you have to spend most of your time thinking about what you did right. And, remember, even the little things deserve a pat on the back.

6. Travel

Some people say: “Travel far enough and you will meet yourself.” If you find yourself having difficulty remembering when was the last time you went somewhere distant, it is time to pack your bags and go for an adventure. You will be surprised to find how much you will learn about yourself when you are somewhere far away from home. Witness the beauty of nature, relish a slower pace of life, connect with strangers, eat a delightful meal, and just enjoy being you.


The story behind Zam Zam water

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Zam Zam is the name of the well that provides blessed water to billions of people, have thirstily drunk from throughout history, especially during the Hajj pilgrimage.

Prophet Ibrahim (pbuh) came to Makkah with his wife Haggar and their baby Ismail. He left his family there on Allah’s orders. Haggar and Ismail consumed all the water and Ismail started to cry Haggar was helpless, and started running from the top of one hill: AS’AFA to the next: ALMARWAH in search of help, Haggar did that 7 times then returned to Ismail when she heard a voice. She asked the voice for help.

Gabriel (pbuh) hit the ground and water came out Haggar covered the hole with sand to prevent the water from spilling out. That was Zamzam water a caravan was passing by the valley and noticed birds hovering around the water, which was never present before, so they requested Haggar’s permission to camp near the water.

This marked the beginning of Makkah civilization increased further after Ibrahim and Ismail (Peace Be upon Them) built the Holy Mosque. The Tribe Jurhum was the historical custodian of the Holy Mosque until the Tribe Khuz’ah took over. Around the 5th Century A.D. Qusay Ibn Kilab was the custodian of the Holy Mosque and Zamzam. Unfortunately the well was neglected and was eventually buried. Abdul Muttalib Ibn Hashim, the grandfather of Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) dug the well once more after the event of the Elephant and Zamzam water emerged once again.

The story behind Zam Zam water will always enlighten many of us through the miracle of having been given such blessed water. A verse from The Holy QUR’AN, “O our Lord I have made some of my offspring to dwell in a valley without cultivation, by Thy Sacred House; in order, O our Lord, that they may establish regular Prayer: so fill the hearts of some among men with love towards them, and feed them with fruits: so that they may give thanks (Quran [Surah Ibrahim’14:37]).

PROPHET MUHAMMAD (pbuh) Hadith of Zam Zam water The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said “The best water on the face of the earth is the water of Zamzam; it is a kind of food and a healing from sickness” (Saheeh al-Jaami, 3302).

Feeling Blue, Cobalt Blue?

The weather is continuing to shatter our hopes of rocking bright coloured looks this Spring/ Summer. With Rain and Windy weather forecast to stay yet another month. A hot new colour has become apparent, everyone’s feeling blue right? why not try the electric cobalt blue and be a statement rather than a sore thumb this Spring/ Summer. Salaam Style has picked out five statement pieces of clothing and accessories from the local high street that have this seasons colour all over it.  So why not take the risk and rock the colour before someone else does?

Style Stalker! 5 Hijab friendly celebspired looks we love!

1. Colourful Sweaters

This season colour is the new black. From vibrant yellows to subtle pinks see how celebrities including Beyonce and Jessica Alba have worked this hot new look.

2.Caped Up Sophistication

A timeless trend and now is the perfect time to rock it right. So if you want to lift outerwear through the elegant force of a cape why not follow Nicole Scherzinger and Dianne Kruger and unleash your inner superwoman.

3. Wide Leg Wonder

Welcoming the refreshing change from tighter trousers. The seventies revival trend is back causing a powerful statement this season.  Celebrities including Victoria Beckham and Jenifer Lawrence have proved this look is powerful and here to stay.

4. Polka Dot Shirt

Bold spots plus a pretty feminine blouse has chic style written all over it. Celebrities including Chanel Iman have already joined the dots to discover girlishness done well.

5. The Boyfriend Coat

With the juxtaposition of the loose yet feminine effect of fierce tailoring. The oversized boyfriend coat is set to make your wardrobe the chicest ever. Follow the fierce trend with inspiration from Miranda Kerr and Rochelle Humes.


Follow PORCHEB and become a successful woman!


  1. Passion- The late Nelson Mandela believed “There is no passion to be found playing small in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” Therefore to have this passion you have to love what you do and look beyond what is on the horizon. A successful woman would unfold what is impossible and make it possible. Passion is the ultimate craft.

2. Organisation- In order to be efficient, you have to be organized on many levels. You have to have a system in place to keep work and home in order or things can quickly get away from you. Here are some tips:

  • Make sure you always have what you need for the day with you.
  • Clean things out regularly to avoid a build-up of mess.
  • When making your to-do list for the week, remember things may occur that could be entirely unexpected. So, do not set in stone what you need to do – be flexible when circumstances change.
  • “A place for everything and everything in its place” is always a good organizational rule of thumb to live by.
  • Treat yourself right – get plenty of sleep the night before and eat healthily (or healthier). To accomplish anything you need to be able to think clearly and need energy to do it.

Remember: organized minds make successful people.

3. Realistic- In order to be realistic you must understand yourself and the world around you. You must be able to look at yourself and see exactly what you are capable of. You still need to challenge yourself, but if you have tried something several times, than you need to accept that maybe you can’t do it. Dream big but be realistic for a successful life.

4. Confidence- A state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Tips including body language is a key ingredient towards a loving you.

Make goals for yourself, not expectations.

  • You are the only one who truly knows you. Love yourself and others may follow suit.
  • Remember to live everyday like it’s your last. Who knows when it might end? Who cares what other people think as long as you’re thinking positive and feeling good? Show them whose boss. Enjoying every day with a smile on your face is the best way forward.
  • Stop being a perfectionist. Nothing and no one is perfect. High standards have their place, but your daily life is going to have pitfalls and flaws. Accept them as learning experiences and move on.

5. Helpers- A person who contributes to the fulfilment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose. You would have the drive to make others failures into successes through your professional nature. Natural born leaders make great helpers as their main aim is to continuously succeed.

6. Emotions- women tend to be more emotional than their male counterparts. While that’s not necessarily a bad thing, there is a time and place for emotions. When it comes to business, it’s not the time or place to wear your feelings on your sleeve.
Effective leaders, whether male or female, are the ones who remain calm under pressure and have a consistent disposition. How effective can someone be if they fly off the handle when chaos erupts? Or, what happens if they’re so busy going off on a tangent that they can’t hear what their trusted advisor’s are telling them? To rise to the top of the success ladder, you have to be able to keep your emotions in check.

7. Boss- You are the boss, the free thinker, the ruler. You don’t stop at being the employee you have the skills and qualities to develop other around you.  when you’re in control, you have the ability to create a more sane, happy and balanced workplace for yourself and your employees.